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Spring, 2026
A few weeks ago, as you know, I went to Tucson for a writers’ workshop. I’d been invited because of an essay I’d submitted to a contest—an account of how I made peace with the English Bulldog who became mine after my divorce—and so, when we finalists were divided into groups, I was assigned to the nonfiction category. I could’ve opted for fiction instead, since that’s primarily what I write, but I decided to stay where I’d been put and submitted a manuscript of pieces I’d written about my divorce. If you’ve been reading me for a while, you’ve probably seen them; three of them originated as posts on my last blog. These pieces are intensely personal, and reveal a great deal about my marriage and how it ended. One of them, in particular, is so searing that I cannot imagine how I would ever publish it—my ex-husband would surely lose his mind. But I wasn’t submitting these pieces for publication, I was just sharing them with a group of fellow writers, getting feedback on the work.
The more times I read them, though, the more strongly I felt about the work I’d submitted—that it’s good. Some of my best, even. That other people would want to read it. Also, on some level, I was asking myself: are you seriously sharing these pieces for workshopping when you have zero intention of sending them out? I tried not to think too hard about that question. I focused on basking in the praise that flowed from my fellow writers.
After I got home from Arizona, I had a flurry of obligations and some catching up to do, and I didn’t do much writing, but then a week or so ago, reviewing the comments on my manuscript, I decided to return to Maggie Smith’s phenomenal memoir of divorce (and also of trying to be a writer and a mother at the same time), You Could Make This Place Beautiful. The first time I listened to that book, I’d churned out the three blog posts that became the bulk of my workshop submission; I remember walking the bike trail near my house, listening to the audio on my earbuds, pausing it every two minutes so I could dictate a note into my phone. I have never had a book affect me like that one did, every other sentence, seemingly, triggering some memory or association or revelation or idea. So I started it again, and it’s been just like last time. I have a list in my Notes app nearly eight screens long of ideas from my own marriage to write about that came up while I listened to Maggie’s book. I’ve written first drafts of five new pieces, and started several more. That familiar joyous obsession—the persistent itch to get back to work because there are so many more things to write about—has been with me ever since I started listening, nearly two weeks now.
One night, I went out for a walk in the evening after dinner. I was listening to YCMTPB, and then I paused it to think about some of the things that were coming up for me. I’d made a few more notes in my phone of ideas sparked by her story, and suddenly, as I climbed the steps that connect my neighborhood to the park behind my house, the voice in my head spoke directly to me. You realize you’re writing a book, right? I’ve been writing a book my whole life. I was writing one book for 20+ years; then I finished it, and I started another, but what came to me the other night was, that’s not the book I’m writing now. I’m not writing another novel; I’m writing a memoir. Oh my God, I replied. And then…I can’t think about that now. I just need to keep writing.
Last Wednesday, I had a session with a medium. I’d wanted to meet with him while I was in Sedona, after Tucson, since that’s the sort of thing people like to do in Sedona, but he wasn’t available then so I booked a zoom session and did it from my bedroom. There were things I wanted to hear, and I did hear them, though I’m not convinced they came from where he said they did, but at one point, he asked me, “Are you writing a book?” I laughed, and I said yes, and he told me both of my parents were urging me to keep writing it. He said that the world needed my voice, and I should finish my book and get it out there because other people will benefit from my story. I thought about saying, “Yes, but do my parents understand that the fucking world will end if I write this story and my ex finds out about it? Do they know what that will mean for me?” No one in the afterlife, it seems, is concerned about it.
Last night, I had a dream. My dreams have been off the hook for weeks, wild and ridiculous and vivid and numerous; several have included my ex, and various other men in my life. Last night, though, there was none of that. I dreamt I was crossing a kind of bridge. The details are hazy; I seemed to be on a hike, through a desert-looking landscape, and I wasn’t alone but I don’t remember who was with me. There was a weird formation in front of me, what looked like a huge white boulder wedged between two rocks, but when I stepped on it to cross, it collapsed, and I realized what had looked like a boulder was actually a gigantic hornets’ nest. It fell to the ground and split open; a wave of terror washed through me as I imagined the wasps about to swarm out and sting me, and I turned to run, but whoever I was with wasn’t worried about it. They waited, and so I hesitated, and a moment later the wasps did pour out in a buzzing cloud, but they didn’t swarm me. They didn’t even care about me; they made a lot of noise and then zoomed off in every direction, all around us, driven by whatever alien drives power wasps. Within seconds, they were gone.
The hornets’ nest was empty. I was fine.
I may need you to remind me later.
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Civilization
So. How’s your day going so far?
Today is April 7th; it’s the first Tuesday of the month, my favorite aunt’s birthday, the date of the sun’s annual exaltation. Also the date on which our lunatic president announced that “an entire civilization will die tonight,” not that he wants it to, but sometimes things are out of his hands. Except when he wants to take credit for them, whether he deserves it or not. Which he very much does in this instance, since this entire war was his idea and his doing, the conditions that now precipitate his threat did not exist before he started the bombing of Iran, and if in fact we–the collective we, not that any of us are involved–do in fact bomb Iran back to the Stone Age, it will be because he decided it was the only way to get us out of the global fucking disaster he has gleefully gotten us into.
{Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh.}
I want to say something meaningful here, not because my blog post is going to alter the course of whatever future we’re careening toward, but because I just want to know that I went on the record as saying that I viscerally and with great fervor do *not* support whatever it is he has in store for Iran tonight. Which, very possibly, is nothing, since we know that he is a liar and a chicken shit and also a manipulator of markets and says whatever he thinks will make him look powerful and make him money. It could be that he lets Israel blow up all Iran’s railroads and then announces our work here is finished and we’re going home. I don’t know, and I don’t know what to say about it, all I really know for sure is that this would be a really great time for the universe to send one last little blood clot hurtling through a certain maniac’s most congested coronary artery.
I have a lot of feelings about how we got here, as, I imagine, do you; most of mine revolve around my deep and ever-growing rage at organized religion, the ways in which it seems to poison and pervert so much more than it inspires. I have struggled this whole long year and change since the last inauguration with my feelings about certain family members who voted (AGAIN!) for this madness. That the same people who never missed a single opportunity to proselytize at me throughout my childhood have somehow either forgotten or outright rejected every single teaching of the man they insisted I invite into my heart is infuriating, and depressing, though perhaps it also validates my refusal. Look how much good it did them! But also, there is a fetishizing of apocalypse that runs through certain strains of Christianity (though it’s hardly exclusive to the Christians), and that bloodlust for the end times is on full display right now with Hegseth and Trump and Vance all salivating over nuking Iran. When the greatest thing you have to look forward to in your belief system hinges on the end of the world, there’s not a lot of motivation to keep that world in good working order. I am angry today, more so than usual, at every single person who got us here: every person who voted for this guy, or didn’t vote, or voted for some third-party idiot who never stood a chance. I am angry at every person who said “I don’t like either one of them,” then voted for a blasphemer and a pedophile over a competent woman who never raped anyone. I am angry at every person who claimed they were voting for the “lesser of two evils,” and then chose absolute evil.
I don’t know what will happen tonight, or tomorrow night, or next week, but I know this: we cannot continue to call ourselves a civilized nation if we allow this to continue. “Civilization” is defined as “the stage of human social and cultural development that is considered most advanced.” If we leave this monster in office, and sit idly by while he boasts of his plans to murder a nation of 90 million–whether or not he actually attempts to–then we no longer meet that standard. The president might very well be correct when he says a civilization will die tonight. It may not be the one he thinks.
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Notes From the Road

Yesterday I left town for a week in Tucson and Sedona, to attend a writer’s conference and then bask with a girlfriend in the woo-woo energy of the northern Arizona energy vortex. I was a little nervous heading to the airport, as my instagram feed is currently 30% capybaras, 50% end of the world, and 20% TSA security checkpoint horror stories (lines out to the parking garage in New Orleans! Three hour waits in Houston!). I knew I was flying out a dinky little airport that’s probably only “international” because it has a flight to Toronto or some such, but I was still a little nervous about missing my flight. I needn’t have worried; there was exactly one person ahead of me in line.
Since I was quite early, I staked out a good spot where I could spread out and make myself comfortable reading the last few manuscripts I needed to review for this conference. I was annoyed when, soon after, some random man came and sat in the middle of my workspace. I defaulted straight to judgment mode and clocked his shaved head, ostentatious scraggly white beard, and conspicuous tattoos (though, to be fair, not the prison variety)…was he MAGA? White nationalist? Something told me no, but I stayed on alert. For the next hour he hunched over his phone, watching something on YouTube, I presume, then suddenly erupted in outrage. “Goddamnit!” he exclaimed, “Are you fucking kidding me?” A cloud of nervous glances gathered around him, and I threw all my energy into maintaining the impermeable shield of invisibility all women learn to manifest around the time they hit puberty. Yes, it’s awkward to pretend you don’t hear someone who’s shouting profanity at their phone two feet away from you, but you’ll never survive in this world if you can’t. As the nearest person to him, I knew I was vulnerable to being dragged into whatever drama was unfolding in his plans/life/imagination; I began to debate vacating the scene.
“The curse of BWI strikes again!” he announced to no one in particular, and part of me felt a little sad; I know that urge to have the world share in your dismay. But then he shouted, “Jesus Christ, is there anything Trump can’t fuck up?!” and I laughed aloud involuntarily. Turns out he had a text saying the extraordinary security backlog at BWI was impacting departure times, and his next flight had been delayed several hours.
“No, and don’t tempt him,” I responded. After that, we were friends.
My travel was mostly uneventful. The first flight contained at least 50 Michigan middle schoolers returning home from a field trip to (I assume) Colonial Williamsburg, as well as the most ferociously outraged baby I have ever heard. Both the smell and the noise level of that flight were unbearable. Every child aboard had at least one soda, one bag of Sour Patch Kids, and one bag of Takis, so I can only imagine the atrocities inflicted upon the lavatories. My second flight, full of adults and departing at 9:30 pm, was dark and silent. I arrived around midnight local time and got a cab to my AirBnB; along the way, I exclaimed over the saguaro cacti I saw everywhere along the road. “They have to be at least 50-75 years old before they even start to get a arm,” my driver told me. Somehow, the fact that he said it this way–“A arm”–made it sound even more remarkable–mysterious, foreboding. But maybe that’s just because it was 3 am for me. “The ones you see that are 30 feet high, with arms going in every direction? Those ones are like 150 years old.”
“Holy shit,” I said, as understanding dawned in my brain. “They’re like trees, but different.” Which, I know, is exactly the sort of penetrating insight that brings you to this blog.
“And they’re protected,” he added. “So you can get in a lot of trouble if you steal one.”
This, I’ll admit, took me by surprise. “Steal them?” I asked. “Steal the cactuses?”
“Yeah,” he said, “I guess you need special equipment or something ’cause they got all those spines, but you can do it.”
I thought of the prickly pear cuttings a friend had gifted me, how you just set them in the dirt and they start to grow, no potting necessary. “Because they don’t really have a root system!” I said. Mind blown.
“Exactly. The baby ones especially, you can just pick them up and drive away with them.”
My mood darkened abruptly as I considered the trauma of baby cacti, kidnapped in the middle of the night.
He had a lot of recommendations for things to do, though, including my first stop this morning, the Tucson Botanical Garden. This was a lovely way to start my visit, and I took a lot of photos that document not only the astounding variety of surreal and scary-looking flora here in the Sonoran desert, but also the reality that when I am wearing sunglasses, I cannot see my phone screen at all. Basically I’m just pointing my phone in the direction of whatever I’d like to remember and hoping for the best, only to find, when I get home, a collection of blurry, off center tree limbs and bird butts, plus accidental shots of my own face, scowling.
After the garden, I called a Lyft to take me to 5 Points Market for lunch, and was alerted by the app that my driver would be deaf or hard of hearing, so I should use text if I needed to communicate with her. I immediately went on YouTube to refresh my memory of how to say “thank you” in ASL, imagining that single gesture would be the extent of our communication; the driver who’d brought me to the garden in the first place had said my name when I got in the car and then never made another sound. I gave him 5 stars. This new driver, Ellen, pulled up to the curb and started peppering me with questions the moment I opened the door. I uttered six words–“I’ve never been to Tucson before!”–and she was off to the races with recommendations. Aren’t you supposed to be deaf? I almost said, but I hardly had the chance to interject; she told me about all the high end resorts up in the mountains that surround the city (though obviously I already have a place to stay), then moved on to food recs, which I definitely was interested in. Hers were singularly awful. She pointed out one chain restaurant after another as we cruised past a slew of strip malls and shopping centers–Asian, Italian, a place called “Cheddars,” a pizzeria–and when I said, “I’m in Arizona, I want to eat Mexican food!”, she said the Mexican here is too spicy (turns out, she’s from Chicago). But she urged me repeatedly to go to Forbes Meat Market, and she loves the French fries at Applebee’s.
I told her where my Airbnb was located. “You could go to the Holocaust Museum,” she offered.
I don’t mean to suggest she wasn’t a good conversationalist. When I told her my conference is meeting at the Marriott by the University of Arizona, she piped up “That’s right by where all those kids were killed!”
“Oh!” I exclaimed. “Um, what kids?”
Apparently some billionaire’s asshole son crashed his car into three college students crossing the street and then kept driving. “You can google it, the kid got out on a quarter million dollars cash bail. I think he should lose his license,” she said, “and make restitution. And do community service–you know, give something back.” I started to say I was impressed that she didn’t want to see him thrown in jail, but she cut me off. “And he should definitely spend time in prison. A lot of time.”
Since we were on the subject of crime, I asked her, “What do you think happened to Nancy Guthrie?”
“Epstein files,” she said. I agreed they’ll never find her.
Ellen dropped me off at the 5 Points Market, where I’d been told to get the huevos rancheros. “That’s the Forbes Meat Market, across the street,” she said for the third time. I gave her 5 stars, too.
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Find Your Why
We have now entered Fund-A-Thon season in abortion world, the magical 11-week period during which abortion funds all over the country try everything they can think of to get people to donate so we can keep doing what we love to do—fund abortions! In our recent board call to brainstorm ideas for fun ways to get money, we were encouraged to “find our why”—figure out the reason(s) we care so much about the work we do, so we can communicate that passion to our would-be donors and, hopefully, inspire them to give. Meditating on my own why got me thinking about my mom, and how she helped shaped my views.
My mom loved to say that she never left the house during the 60s. Specifically, she meant the last part: the civil unrest and the Summer of Love and her oldest brother fighting in Vietnam while her youngest ones were trying to grow weed in the back yard of their house in northeast Ohio (with minimal success). She hated everything about that time—the music, the fashion, the chaos, the relentless machine of war that took so many of the boys she went to high school with and never gave them back. She would’ve been 26 in 1969, working as a legal secretary in downtown Cleveland, soon to meet the (married) man who would become my father, and she was not the sort of person who was ever going to hold a sign at a protest or stick a flower in the barrel of a gun. The very idea gave her vertigo.
This is almost certainly what drew me to activism.
My protesting career got off to a bumpy start, owing to the fact that I was on the wrong side of the issue in question. I’d gone with my best friend and her mother to the 1980s version of what we know today as the March for Life—a rally on Cleveland’s Public Square commemorating all the murdered babies whose unbaptized souls were, in those days, still presumably consigned to a sad eternity in limbo (I believe it was Pope John Paul II who released them a few years later with his decree that, unlike dogs, all fetuses go to heaven). Up to that point, I’d had no opinion on abortion whatsoever; I only went because my best friend was going, and she only went because her mother was making her. I don’t remember much about the experience other than being clustered for warmth around the Soldiers’ and Sailors’ Monument while the frigid January wind blew in from the lake, and being handed a microphone and a “poem,” which I was asked to read for the assembled crowd. All I retained from that bit of literature was its format—it was typed in the shape of a fetus in profile—and its all-caps final line, TODAY MY MOTHER KILLED ME. I recently googled it and discovered there are numerous versions of this slop on the internet—you can look for yourself if you’re curious, I’m not linking to it—and while it is appalling from a literary perspective, it is somewhat instructive as a piece of propaganda. Its title is—unsurprisingly—Diary of an Unborn Child (spoiler alert, she would’ve been a blonde, blue-eyed girl with a weird fixation on hair), and its goal is, obviously, to humanize the unborn child while shaming the woman who doesn’t want to be its mother. Forty years later, the anti-abortion movement has updated its technology, if not its approach, by creating an AI-generated”Baby Olivia” video which uses a baldly manipulated developmental timeline to tug at viewers’ heartstrings and mislead them about abortion. Legislators in several states (including my home state of Ohio) are working to make the video mandatory viewing in public schools. If you’re reading this in Ohio, make sure to vote no on that measure in November.
Thankfully, my indoctrination was thwarted the minute I got home by my mother, who surely had a few choice (read: profane) words for my best friend’s mother when she found out where I’d been. I can still picture the scene: she sat me down in one of the bouncy Breuer cesca cane chairs of our little kitchen with its six-inch black-and-white TV on the table and its orange-and-gold foil wallpaper (my bedroom was papered in grasscloth; the entire condo, an atrocity of 1970s interior design) to explain why, in our family, we support a woman’s right to choose. She told me the story of my most beloved family member, who’d been carjacked at knifepoint years before, and sought an abortion when she found herself pregnant afterward. She told me about other family members who’d had, or paid for, abortions because their lives would have been upended by a pregnancy or a child. This may have been the point at which I began to realize that, though she was sending me to Catholic school, she didn’t actually have a lot of patience with Catholicism. It wasn’t until a few years later that I learned of all the bullshit she’d had to put up with from our pastor, Father Viall (yes, that’s his real name, and he really was), for being divorced, and for having had me baptized in (horrors!) my father’s Presbyterian church.
Interesting side note: years later, I learned that the kidnapping and assault were not actually what led my relative to seek an abortion. She had it because she already had multiple children, closely spaced, with an abusive husband she couldn’t leave, and another child was more than she could bear. This detail speaks to the truth that a lot of people support the right to seek an abortion if the reason is good enough. My mom seemed to believe that becoming pregnant after a rape was a good enough reason, but simply feeling like an additional child might break you was not. The more I learn about abortion, the more I see this perspective in our public conversations about it, and even in my own attitudes: abortion should be “safe, legal, and rare,” as Bill Clinton loved to say. That abortion should be a last resort, a thing you do once because you’re desperate, but only when you’re really, really desperate, and never more than once is a perspective many of us have adopted in this country, even though it’s not based in history or reality. It’s a perspective we need to let go of, because this is how extremist lawmakers end up passing abortion bans that claim to allow “exceptions” for the good enough reasons—rape, incest, the life of the mother. But those exceptions are meaningless, impossible to enact in real life, and ultimately they just enable legislators to pass terrible laws that voters would otherwise reject. I believe there is no bad reason to have an abortion. If you are pregnant and don’t want to be, that is good enough.
I joined the board of Blue Ridge Abortion Fund a little over a year ago, but I started volunteering on the intake line a few months ago. I cannot tell you how much joy it brings me, to return the calls of people seeking abortions and tell them we’ve got them covered. I’ve had callers cry from gratitude; I’ve had callers ask “How do I get your job?!” To hear the surprise in their voices when they tell me how much they need and I can say back to them, “OK, that’s no problem! What else can we help you with?” is one of precious few antidotes to the continuously unfolding nightmare that is the news. One caller was taken aback when I offered to CashApp some money for aftercare supplies—period pads, pain reliever, a heating pad—it seemed to surprise her that we would be thinking not just about paying for her abortion, but also about making sure was comfortable and cared for. At a time when it seems like every vulnerable person on the planet is under threat (and if you don’t already know it, that’s all of us), being able to tell people you can give them what they need—not just money, but compassion, support, resources, hope—is priceless. So that’s my why, and I would encourage you to find yours, and then go do something about it. Over the next 11 weeks you are likely to hear me ask you more than once for money; if you have any to spare, I hope you’ll share it. If you have time to spare, I hope you’ll find an organization that needs you and share it there. Until we are able to build a new society that centers the real human needs of all people, rather than the craven capitalistic needs of a despicable few, it will be on each of us to take care of one another. But I promise you, it’s worth it.
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Mikaeil Mirdoraghi

Here’s what I did this morning:
I read Heather Cox Richardson’s summary of the news while waiting for my 17yo to get ready for school. Listened to more news while dropping them off. Came home, settled onto the couch for a long, fortifying snuggle with the mastiff that serves as my homeopathic antidote to the news these days. She got into a septic field a week ago and her smell is finally just about back to its normal feral, calming musk. Went upstairs to change out of pajamas while scrolling through Instagram posts about the war: black clouds of oil raining over Tehran; a furious female lawmaker in Spain, decrying the notion that this war is for women when its first act was to kill little girls in their classroom; a one-year-old child being pulled from rubble of a building we’d bombed. And then: the photo above. A little boy waving from a stairwell. He’s chubby, with glasses fixed to his head by an oversized cord, wearing a backpack and a button-down shirt, carrying a silly-looking light blue something—maybe a lunch box, maybe shaped like an anime character—in one hand, the other raised to say goodbye. To his mother. As he left for school in Minab on Saturday morning. He was a third-grader, but now what they found of him is in one of those hundreds of holes carved out by backhoes in rows across the bleak gray field that maybe once grew flowers, but now holds the bodies of a school full of children. I looked at his photo for such a long time, imagining him with his mother at the store, picking out that lunchbox. I imagined her laying out his shirt and making sure he had his glasses, and then standing in the doorway taking his picture because look at him, oh my goodness look at him, and I dropped to the floor and I wept. For his mother, and for all the mothers in Iran, and Gaza, and Sudan, and everywhere, all of us, who love these children so much it makes us literally insane, who put cords on their glasses and treats in their lunches, and all around the world there are sick, selfish men who want to use their bodies for power, for gratification, for leverage, for revenge. I haven’t cried like that in a very long time, but it went on for a while, and then I went downstairs and started this post, but it started again later on, and when I returned to work on this some more, it started all over again. I have been crying about this child all day.
I’m not complaining. Mikaeil’s mother—if she survived the double-tap strike that killed the parents and first responders after it killed the children and their teachers—is laid out by a grief that we all say we can’t imagine, but we can. We do. We imagine it all the fucking time, and that is another thing they don’t tell you about before you become a mother. That the idea, the threat of that grief is a stalker who will follow one step behind you, every day for the rest of your life.
What I’m saying is, on the one hand: this is what it’s like to be an American with any remaining shred of empathy right now. You wake up, you’re reminded that we have become the cruelest bullies in the schoolyard, you grieve, you ask yourself what you can do. You learn things like how a double-tap strike works—and if you don’t know this, let me explain. It’s not just that we bomb something, and then we wait a little while and bomb it again. That’s atrocious, and depraved, but no. We sent a fleet of bombs over this area, and one struck the school, but another circled; it flew around, “gathering data,” watching what was happening on the ground. There were several sites targeted by this little fleet, but only one of them had people in it—the school. And so that last bomb that stayed aloft, observing, it saw the parents and the first responders who were rushing to rescue the children, and it marked them. There, some circuit inside it said, and down it went. We sent a bomb that hung around waiting, and didn’t drop until there were more people to kill.
This.
Is.
Who.
We.
Are.
But on the other hand: my God but it beats the alternative. No one is dropping bombs on my kids right now. The air that I breathe, by the time it circulates all the way to me from Tehran, will be much cleaner. Though we all live inside the same bubble. Those towering columns of petroleum smoke will come for us all, except maybe the shambling husk of our president, whose days on this planet are dwindling.
I feel like, everything that’s happening around us, I see it now: I see how it all fits together, the atrocities detailed in the Epstein files, they’re not just about sex and the carnal urges of powerful men—though that’s in there, certainly—they’re about networking, connecting, and making sure you can keep people on board by holding something over them. These men in power simultaneously demand that women keep doing their work, the work of reproducing, the work of making more little bodies for them to ravage and exploit, while poisoning the world those children are born into, using them for target practice, sending them to war. They wind us up about idiotic boogeymen—trans kids in sports, abortions in the water supply, DEI hires—to keep our eyes off the ball so that a small cadre of the worst imaginable men can amass more money despite already having more than they could spend in a hundred lifetimes. Meanwhile they send children to be raped as insurance policies; offerings for initiation into some sickening club, a blood brotherhood where innocent blood seals the oath. And then they stand on a stage, or they post on their platforms, that this is how we bring Jesus back again, that they are his messengers and his instruments, that this is what he meant when he talked about little children, suffering to come unto him.
I do think I get, now, know why that photo of Mikaeil has stirred such a specific horror for me (and, I suspect, many other American parents). It’s because we Gen X moms (and dads) have spent our parenting lives being regularly reminded that whatever goodbye you get when you drop them off in the morning might be the last goodbye you get. I have a thousand snapshots stored in my mind of each child climbing out of the car in the morning—bounding, slinking, stumbling, swearing—that I saved because there was always a voice in my head wondering aloud whether this was the dreaded day. Because I think I believed on some level that if I noted the possibility, it would pass me by. Like blood on the lintel. Like a prayer.
I don’t know what I can do about this. I don’t know what we can do about this. But I know that we cannot continue this way. Not us, as individual people, not us as a country. And I hope Pete Hegseth sees this child’s face every time he closes his eyes, until the day he dies.
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Jesus Vs. The Reaper
Well if you haven’t already heard, I’m happy to inform you that my girl got out of the Middle East shortly after I posted about it, and is now enjoying a little downtime in Europe with her dad. In the end, getting out was less stressful and less chaotic than any of us imagined it would be, but I’m surprised by how sad it makes me to think I won’t be returning to Jordan in the spring, most because of the reason why.
I’ve noticed, over the course of the last week, how my news consumption has plummeted. There are benign reasons–I’m listening to a lot more audiobooks this year, and I’ve got a good one going now; also it’s spring, there’s a lot to do outside getting the garden ready–but mostly, it’s the war. While my daughter was still in Amman, I put myself on need-to-know status: taking in the broad strokes, knowing the general status of things, especially in Jordan, but no more than that. It was too much; too close. Now she’s out and I’m not worried for her personal safety anymore, but I still can’t stand the news because it’s just too terrible. What we’ve already done there, and what we seem determined to do, in partnership with a regime that’s still in the process of wreaking a separate genocide, feels unbearable. It was bad enough to know that our bombs and our complicity were wiping out Gaza one family at a time; to know that it is our troops who murdered all those little girls inside their school, while our Secretary of Defense jerks off to the footage and our slurring, behatted president shrugs off the dead as “the bad part of war,” as though any good part exists…it’s more than anyone should have to bear.
I haven’t known a lot of Iranians in my life–two who stand out in my memory are a close friend of my mom’s from my childhood and a comically awful online dating experience I had a few years ago–but Iran is one of my bucket list destinations. I don’t ever expect to make it there, certainly not now, but I looked into how it might be done not that long ago. One of my favorite shows on television right now is “Tehran,” which I have to remind myself periodically is actually an Israeli show, filmed in Israel, because it does an outstanding job of portraying both the Iranian regime and Mossad as terrifying villains; the Iranian people are the heroes of the show, and your sympathies can’t help but lie with them. It’s an excellent example of how storytelling can help us empathize with people we think are different from us, and show us the ways in which we all really want the same things: freedom, safety, a better future for our children. The third season finale aired the night we attacked. I won’t spoil it, but I will say that watching it while knowing what had just happened there in real life was gut-wrenching. I rewatched the whole season over the last few nights, as is my habit when a show comes out one episode at a time, and that finale made my heart hurt.
It all just makes me so angry, and I don’t know who to be angry at: patriarchy? Organized religion? Capitalism? Are they all just different flavors of the same poisonous fruit? The idea that we have a government in this country that professes to call itself Christian and pro-life, while oil rains down on the children of Tehran, and pieces of little schoolgirls lie in mass graves, and billions of dollars that could be feeding the hungry and housing the homeless are wasted, along with the lives and futures of young people here and abroad, so that rich old men can get a little richer before they are, insha’allah, consigned to the hells they deserve…I don’t know what to do with that feeling. I don’t believe in apocalypse narratives; in fact, I think stories of the end times help to justify exactly the kind of nihilistic policies our current administration so adores. Who cares what happens to the planet or its people, when you already know you’re saved? Why should you waste time trying to preserve the beauty and biodiversity of the earth when it’s all going to be laid waste at the second coming? Still, it’s hard to watch the black columns of petroleum smoke rising to the heavens and not feel like you’re watching the end of the world. The president probably really believes he’s God’s instrument, just as Hegseth is telling his generals, and so anything he does is justifiable. The only limit I can imagine on his behavior is the knowledge that there’s no money in the afterlife, but he probably believes it can buy him immortality here–though that rot around his neck suggests otherwise. In times like this, a little part of me kind of wishes the Second Coming story were true. I’ve read the gospels, too, and I know what Jesus was about. I would honestly love to believe he’s on his way–the sooner the better–because he would *not* be happy about what’s happening here. To paraphrase the old bumper sticker, if Jesus really is coming, he’s gonna be pissed.
Sadly, I also don’t believe in Jesus as supernatural hero or master of the universe. I recognize he gives a lot of people hope, and that’s great, especially when those people actually feel motivated to embody the message of peace and love that he espoused, unlike the blasphemers currently running our country who can’t shut up about him. But you know who I do believe in? The Grim Reaper. Death, I have total confidence in. He’s got a plan for every one of us, even the most powerful men on earth, and my faith in him gives me hope. Hope that I’m around to finally see what he has in mind for Drumpf.
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Day 3
How often do I stare at an empty computer screen, utterly devoid of ideas for what to write about, wondering When will I ever feel inspired again? When will the urge to say something about my life or the world return? Despite all my experience to the contrary, it always feels like such a permanent condition when it comes over me, so irremediable and hopeless….and then, suddenly, Donald Trump decides to start a war with Iran in order to distract from his involvement in a global trafficking network, and I find myself with something to say.
In other words, trust in the universe. It will always provide.
My daughter, as you may know, is living in Jordan at the moment. If you’re like most Americans and couldn’t find Jordan on a map, I can tell you it shares borders with Israel, Palestine, Saudi Arabia, Iraq, and Syria (which maybe does not help you at all), but more importantly, it lies directly beneath the flight path of the missiles currently being lobbed and skeet-shooted back and forth between Israel and Iran. She is near enough to Israel that she can hear their air raid sirens, and yesterday she heard the blasts that killed 9 people in Beit Shemesh. She sent me some videos of missiles being intercepted that she took from the roof of her building, and you can see why Trump’s so jealous of Israel’s Iron Dome. It’s weirdly mesmerizing to watch the way they shoot bombs out of the air before they hit their intended targets, and the footage from Israel is particularly dramatic: you can really imagine this invisible forcefield as one bomb after another disintegrates overhead. Rarely acknowledged amid the awe, of course, is the unfortunate fact that the fragments of those intercepted missiles still have to come down somewhere, and several of them have already landed in and around Amman. The victims killed by this falling, flaming wreckage are no less dead for having been unintended.
My approach to coping with bombs falling around my daughter is to coach her in the same preparedness strategies I practice on a daily basis: does she have a go-bag with a supply of water and food? A power bank for her phone? Cash on hand? No, no, and no. For all the ways we are alike, we have very different anxiety-management styles. She has a LifeStraw water bottle (that I gave her), and that’s going to have to be good enough–though she did go to the store for more water. The Jordanians are unbothered by all this; they’re used to being caught in the middle of these dramas, which I at least find reassuring. Her classes have been canceled, but most schools and the gym are still open, and where coffee shops are closed, it’s because of Ramadan, not the bombing. War or no war, you’ve still gotta fast.
One way my daughter and I are alike, though, is in our monitoring of who’s paying attention to our personal dramas. I don’t know if any of you do this, but when I’m experiencing a crisis, I take note of who checks in. It’s ironic, really, because I have several close friends who routinely ask me how I’m doing, and I find this question almost personally offensive–Do I not seem ok? Why are you asking?!–but when I have, for example, a child living in the middle of a war zone, you better believe I’m making a list of all the people who don’t ask me how we’re doing. Also unappreciated: comments along the lines of “Maybe she should get out of there!” My God, what an incisive analysis! Perhaps you can use your tremendous intellectual powers to get the airspace over her region opened up, and the airlines operating again, and then clear a path through the missiles and fighter jets so she can leave safely.
Forgive me. I’m a little on edge.
She and her dad have big plans for this week: they’re supposed to meet in Vienna, spend a weekend in Austria, then return together to Amman. It’s unclear whether this can still happen; there’s only one airline operating out of Jordan, and the airspace is currently closed to them at night–a detail I find mildly amusing. The missiles are much easier to see at night, which seems like it would make them easier to avoid! I’d really rather they let the planes fly at night because it’s Ramadan and everyone is tired and cranky during the day. This morning, my daughter texted me that a fighter jet swooped so loud and low over her building that everyone around her scattered. If she’d reached up, she said, she could have touched it.
I told her that if she can get out, she should go straight to Vienna and stay there–though she also has a standing invitation from her boyfriend’s family in Tunisia, which we’ve established lies just outside the maximum reach of Iran’s longest-range missiles. We each speculated about how long this would go on, how infuriating it would be if she had to miss out on her Austrian adventure with her dad, how deadly boring it will be to have to hang out in her apartment alone for days on end if school continues to be canceled because of the war. She doesn’t want to come back to the US for any significant stretch of time, but with each passing day I feel more strongly she needs to get the fuck out of Jordan. Today she got alerts, first warning her to stay away from the US Embassy (it’s 4 kilometers from her apartment), then warning her “you know what, don’t panic but just stay inside, and if you happen to be in a car, calmly leave it where it is and find some stairs to crouch under.” So the sense of urgency is growing.
All of this has, obviously, gotten me thinking about the millions of people around the world who currently love someone in a war zone. This is a novelty for us–it’s the first week, and our current administration is capricious enough and distractible enough that it’s easy to assume this war could be a blip on the collective radar, and then on to other nightmares. But today I am thinking about Ukrainians living outside Ukraine. I’m thinking about Palestinians, the millions more of them exiled than still living in their besieged homeland, and about the displaced Sudanese and all the other mothers and fathers, children and friends of people who are trapped behind enemy lines, whose well-being and lives are in constant, and much more urgent, danger. I’m thinking about the toll it takes on them, the energy required to keep putting one foot in front of the other while the person you love is in harm’s way, for years. A few nights ago, I sat together with friends talking about the Ramadan fast, about how it’s not distinct from your daily routine; you do it while still living your normal life, and it must be hard to continue to meet all the regular responsibilities of every day without any food or water. It’s Ramadan now. I’m thinking of what it feels like to hit refresh on your news apps again and again; to keep checking your texts; to keep checking in, when there is nothing you can really do except sit, and wait, and hunger. For food, for news, for safety.
Most of all, I’m thinking about the Iranians, who have endured this regime for 37 years, but in particular these last two months, during which they have risked everything to rise up, and been crushed with a brutality that defies comprehension. I suppose it’s possible the killing of Khameini could bring them a step closer to liberation, though of course, nothing in the history of US interventions abroad suggests this will be the case. Whatever is going to happen will take time, and likely far more suffering, to parse out, and this is another thing I’ve been thinking a lot about these last few days: the ways in which war disrupts people’s plans, throws their lives into uncertainty. Last Saturday morning as the bombs started to fall, the people of Iran had concert tickets and doctor’s appointments, vacations and birthday parties planned. They were starting new jobs or looking forward to retirement, taking final exams and pregnancy tests, but now the bottom has dropped out of their lives. Meanwhile, the plans of three despicable old men grind on. The Ayatollah lived to a great old age oppressing and brutalizing his people so he could be the god of his own private universe, and the line of succession is well established to carry on that vision. Netanyahu has tortured and genocided an entire population in an effort to keep himself in power and avoid prosecution for his own crimes. And Donald Trump is engaged in a quest to dismantle and degrade the most powerful nation on earth, simply to enrich himself and his family, and fill the gaping emptiness at his center. All three of these men, blessed with long lives and wealth, the trappings of power, children to succeed them. Each a self-styled representative of their particular Abrahamic religion, but versions twisted and poisoned beyond recognition. For all that American bigots love to stereotype Islam as a religion of terrorism, Christianity in the US has been warped into a cruel parody of itself that delights in the suffering of the vulnerable. These days we hear “Christian” influencers and pastors warning of something they call “toxic empathy,” a concept manufactured to justify supporting a leader congenitally devoid of empathy, whose actions would enrage their savior far beyond his outburst in the temple.
Obviously, there are no guarantees of safety anywhere–certainly not in the United States–but I’ll feel better when my baby’s not under the path of those missiles. I recognize how fortunate I am that my daughter has the freedom, the support, and the resources to get out of harm’s way at the first opportunity…but I’ll breathe easier when she’s actually done it.
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On Mirror Neurons and Manifestation
In the couple of years following my ex’s departure, I became kind of preoccupied by neurology: specifically, by the phenomenon of phantom pain, and mirror neurons, and the mirror therapy often used to treat amputees who continue to experience intense, chronic pain in a body part they no longer have. The parallels are obvious, but the neurology is fascinating even separate from the backdrop of calamitous loss: these tiny cells in our brains, the mirror neurons, represent a kind of physiological rebuke to the idea of an individual self, or the notion that any of us could ever be truly alone. Your mirror neurons respond to everything you see as though it is happening to you. When I see someone laugh, or cry, or panic, or die, some part of me experiences it as though I am laughing, crying, panicking…dying. The only way my brain knows that something is happening to another person, rather than to me, is by checking my body for confirmation. This is where the mirror therapy that’s used to treat phantom pain comes in, because phantom pain happens when the brain keeps sending signals to a body part that no longer responds, so one way to treat it is to find a different way of reassuring the brain that the limb is ok. This is done by placing a mirror so that it reflects the intact limb, to give the brain an image of a whole body. Show the mirror neurons that the body is well, and they will stop insisting it is not.
I was so in love with this idea that I wrote a story about a physical therapist who works with wounded vets while also recovering from her own emotionally disfiguring breakup. At one point, the veteran in the story is describing the experience in which he lost his leg, but also saw several of his friends die. Writing that scene, it came to me suddenly, one of the roots of PTSD: that when we see someone die, a part of us responds as though we have, ourselves, died. And so some of us go on to need a kind of therapy that convinces our psyches—or our souls—that we are, in fact, still alive. That it is permissible to continue living.
I’m thinking about this today because (cue the vibe shift) I was just listening to the weekly Chani reading and something she said reminded of the mirror neurons. There’s BIG stuff happening this week in the skies, and whether you “believe” in astrology or not (it would take me a whole post just to clarify how I would answer that question and none of us need to go there right now), you can hardly deny that there is BIG stuff happening in the world all the goddamn time, to the point that we would all probably agree we are way overdue for a decade or so in which not a goddamn thing transpires. But the main thing that’s happening this week—or rather, culminating this week, since it involves two very slow-moving planets and has therefore been unfolding for some time and will continue to do so—has to do with the conjunction of Saturn and Neptune, and what each of these planets represents. Saturn is, of course (if you know your mythology) the figure of time, authority, structure, and institutions; it is tradition, it is the established order of rules, law, and patriarchy (in a birthchart, Saturn is often used to represent one’s father or the role of men in one’s life). Neptune is in many ways the opposite of Saturn: it represents illusion and dissolution, deception, imagination, boundlessness and self-undoing, as well as a kind of cosmic love and impersonal, universal compassion that is generally understood to be feminine. But if I had to pick one word out of all those descriptors to summarize the two energies that are coming together this week, they would be “dissolving” and “structures.” Which I think seems indisputably to be a phenomenon playing out all over the world. Every time I turn on the radio, it seems like somebody is talking about the end of the old world order. Personally, I feel that Saturn clearly has rulership over the billionaire class (entrenched wealth and power being very much part of its domain) and hope that Neptune’s influence, perhaps in the form of their deluded self-undoing via their network of trafficking and corruption, is coming to demolish them once and for all.
The point that Chani was making, though, was about the opportunity this moment presents to imagine new ways of structuring our world. She made an offhand comment about how we are always seeing death and disaster in our newsfeeds and our media consumption, which got me thinking about the mirror neurons, because it works that way, too: if we are constantly watching video of death and destruction, chaos and confusion, then we are naturally going to feel as though we are in the midst of those experiences ourselves even if they are not happening directly to us, and we are probably going to promote and prolong those energies in our own small ways. But conversely, if we are imagining a different future, and projecting it out into the world, then other people are going to take that in as well, and they are going to feel the experience, and spread it through their own networks. This goes back to the idea that artists are crucial to the creation of a new order, because we need people to imagine a different kind of world, and show us what that might look like, in order for people to start actually building it. In the novel I’m working on right now, there is a character who gets kicked out of high school because of a story she writes in which Donald Trump dies while Truthing on the toilet (his final post is Zelensky uses Just For Men on his beard, aging badly, SAD!) and a woman-led revolution known as the Vagina Uprising results in an assortment of bad actors (Elon Musk, JD Vance, Kristi Noem and so on) being loaded onto a Mars-bound rocket that accidentally explodes over the Gulf of Mexico. RFK is sent to a live in a lighthouse off the coast of Maine, with only the seabirds for company. Men are banished from government for ten years.
Is that the future we’re headed for? Well, certainly not if we don’t at least try to imagine it. Trump and his billionaire friends and authoritarian besties are imagining all the time, and none of what they’re working toward is going to end well for the rest of us. The least we can do is dream up some alternatives and feed those into the universal programming.
This week, as some of the year’s most consequential astrology plays out, my invitation to you is simple: imagine the change you want to see in the world, and manifest it any way you can. Write a story or a poem, and share it with the world (or just your corner of it). Make a post on social media. Go volunteer somewhere, join an organization, attend a School Board or City Council meeting. Everybody has a role, and revolutions are built from small gestures by many people. This is the week to figure out your part and start doing it, because when other people see your strength, your courage, your activism, your creativity, they will connect with theirs, as well. As the talmud reminds us all, you are not obligated to complete the work, but neither are you free to abandon it.
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Awaiting Instructions, Excerpt 1: Saoirse
Saoirse Malloy is a good kid.
At 17 years old, she has a GPA of 4.25, thanks to all those AP classes. She volunteers 10 hours a week at Lakewood Hospital on the Children’s Neuro Unit, and she’s active in three different clubs at her high school. She doesn’t smoke, vape, drink, or use drugs, and has never had a serious boyfriend. She has babysat for practically every family in her neighborhood and all of her friends’ parents; she is universally adored. Her siblings annoy her, but she tolerates them with generous equanimity, and she gets along with her mom, her dad, and her dad’s girlfriend, even now, even after everything. So far, she’s been accepted at two of her five reach schools, with offers of substantial financial assistance. Saoirse Malloy will be able to write her own ticket. She could be a doctor, a lawyer, a teacher, a scientist; she could be all of the above.
She is not going to be any of those things.
Saoirse Malloy is not going to college; chances are, she won’t graduate high school. As it stands, the best-case scenario probably involves attending community college from prison…but there are worse options on the table.
At the beginning of 10th grade, Saoirse had become active in an after-school club called EarthWatch as part of her long-range college planning. She knew that extracurriculars were crucial to getting into a good school, so she’d spent her freshman year club-hopping, checking out the various organizations to see which ones appealed to her, and which would look best on a college application. She ended up committing to three different groups whose schedules and purviews worked well together; the combined portfolio of environmental activism, racial justice, and anti-gun advocacy appealed to Saoirse, who—at that time—imagined herself pursuing a career in politics, law, or possibly the nonprofit sector. She would train the totality of her ferocious adolescent idealism and moral clarity—resources she imagined she would always possess in practically endless abundance—on the most intractable problems of humankind, and one by one, she would solve them.
It wasn’t one thing, precisely, that derailed these ambitions, though they weren’t helped much by the EarthWatch meetings, which, most days, consisted of 40 minutes spent googling environment memes to post on social media, or brainstorming alliterative challenges such as Skip The Straw, Pass On Plastic, and Love The Lake, which were intended to motivate their classmates to Do Their Parts (Doing One’s Part being a key component in all of the activist groups Saoirse joined). No, it was a lot of things in combination, over time: a protracted accrual of information that built into understanding, like the bits of dirt and dung that termites gathered and spit together into looming, indestructible towers. There was the relentless drone of climate-disaster news, swelling louder by the day as her freshman and sophomore years ticked past—news made viscerally worse by the brief would-be reprieve of Joe Biden’s presidency, followed by Kamala’s demolishing defeat and Trump’s zealous resumption of punitive, petroleum-fueled power. There was the stunning condescension and indifference of certain state lawmakers she and her club-mates visited to petition (read: beg) for changes to gun laws or policing policies. And most of all, there was her own growing awareness of the world around her, and the imminence with which it was predicted to change, worsen, or disappear.
This awareness happened slowly and all of a sudden. It was there in the way she started to think differently about certain things, like the nature shows her family loved to watch together: Animal Kingdom and Planet Earth and Our One World. Where once she’d shared in her mom’s and Michael’s delight as the shows spun them through the world’s most exotic and awe-inspiring ecosystems, Saoirse began to notice how watching them plunged her into dread and despair. No episode was complete without a disclaimer of some sort, a warning in terms sometimes subtle, sometimes scary, about the peril this particular animal or habitat faced, the urgency with which help was needed. But help from whom? What was Saoirse supposed to do, or her brother, or her mom? The older the program, the deeper the dismay as she wondered—privately, not wanting to ruin anyone else’s mood—how much of what they were looking at even existed anymore.
Then came the 2024 election, when, in the least surprising turn of events in human history, the United States reelected a former president who was not only a deranged and semi-demented rapist, but had actually tried to overthrow the government (add that to the list of things he thankfully couldn’t get right). Those weeks after the election had been some of the worst Saoirse could remember living through—worse than when her parents told them they were getting divorced, but similar in the way the two of them had slogged through the three weeks of living separately under the same roof until her dad had found a place of his own, conspicuously avoiding one another, not meeting each other’s eyes, failing to achieve the benign indifference to which they were clearly aspiring. The way Saoirse’s friends and Democrat family members and progressive online personalities performed their exhaustion and dismay; the way they sleepwalked through the interval between election and inauguration, like the final days of empire, like they had nothing left to give and now would have to take to their collective beds…it infuriated her. What were these people going to do about things? What would be their response to the outrage of a second Donald Trump presidency? Were they just going to spend the next four years hate-posting on social media while he destroyed the world?
And then he commenced doing exactly that. Straight out of the gate: the Project 2025 agenda in full force, across every sphere of government. Dismantling everything from scientific research to academic freedom to environmental policy to foreign aid. Disappearing people! Bringing back coal! What was anyone doing about any of it? Making cute signs and standing on street corners. Posting snarky memes. Crying over brunch. Standing around with their phones in hand while masked, unidentified stormtroopers threw zip-tied landscapers and delivery men into windowless vans. Fucking useless—that’s what the American people were. Generations of exceptionalism had rendered them incapable of seeing that the same thing that had happened to nations all around the world was finally happening to them, and all they knew to do about it was whine and wait for a future election that, at this rate, was never going to happen.
Then it was January, 2026, and suddenly it seemed like Minneapolis was ready to start the revolution, but with what? Whistles and phones? They were going up against ICE agents in Kevlar and gas masks, carrying the same guns we’d sent with our troops to Iraq and Afghanistan. They weren’t even real cops or soldiers, most of them, just unemployable losers ready to vent whatever rage they’d been nursing in their parents’ basements on moms in puffy coats and kids in bunny hats and whatever Black or brown person had the misfortune to cross their paths. Suddenly even her stupid uncle Mike wasn’t quite sure what to say about Trump’s America; he had a closet full of guns and had voted for the orange bastard three times, but the idea that someone should be shot down in the street because of the legal firearm they were lawfully carrying didn’t sit well with him. Not that you could get him to admit that with more than one liberal family member in the room.
But even with the frisson of revolution in the air, Saoirse could hardly come up with a reason to hope. What was her future going to look like? Her siblings’ futures? What kind of world awaited her generation, and those who would follow? And for how much longer would the generations follow? Because even now, Saoirse cannot imagine what sane human being would ever choose to have children. Why would I bring a baby into this world? had been an elitist trope for decades, the sort of thing jaded first-world intellectuals asked in earnest outrage at parties. For Saoirse—for her whole generation—it was a wholly legitimate question, with a baldly self-evident answer: I wouldn’t. Any prospective offspring of hers would inherit a world so red in tooth and claw, the few species capable of adapting to the apocalypse battling each other for survival, that there would no longer be any safe places. You might find a home far from hurricanes and wildfires, only to drown in your own living room when a springtime’s worth of rain fell in a single afternoon. You might live at the top of the hill, but still die from the heatwave that followed while everyone’s power was still out. Or starve when the crops failed. Or you could hang on through all of it, and live among a community of traumatized survivors just waiting for the next disaster.
This was all bad enough; this information was plenty to keep her up at night and kill her appetite. But worse was the knowledge that the people who still had power to do anything about the state of the world—who could still head off the worst of the calamity, if they wanted to—clearly could not be convinced to do so. The world was run by men (and a few women) far beyond fears like hers: their love of money, their grip on power, and their proximity to death (she assumed) rendered them impervious to arguments for change. Donald Trump would be long dead by the time Mar A Lago sank beneath the waves, and his billions (if they existed) would protect his vile offspring from the trials that lay ahead. Mitch McConnell wouldn’t struggle to survive a famine, and Lindsey Graham had no family whose bleak futures might move him to action. For fuck’s sake, the whole world had spent years watching the Palestinian people murdered, starved, relentlessly traumatized, and the US was still sending Israel weapons! And nobody was paying attention to Sudan. The people with power wanted to stay in power. None of them were interested in breaking the system. And none of them were going to live long enough (or be poor enough) to suffer the repercussions of their inaction.
Her peers agreed, and many of them acknowledged that they were actually terrified, on a daily basis, about what the world was going to look like by the time they were adults. But did any of them know what to do about it? Did any of them have a plan of action, to get to the people with real power, to show them what needed to be done right now, today?Of course not. Instead, they retreated to the climateless limbo of TikTok and Instagram the moment their fears bubbled to the surface. They knew the world was burning up, but what were they supposed to do about it? They stopped using straws, and they organized recycling drives, and every so often they rallied their classmates to boycott a company or a brand whose climate policies were unsustainable. A dedicated few went to Columbus, or even Washington, to talk to their elected representatives about the changes that needed to be made. They would be shown around the capitol buildings, provided with fifteen or twenty minutes to sit down with an aide and enumerate their concerns. Maybe the official in question would pose for a photo with them. No one deluded themselves into believing that any of this was going to make a difference. So Saoirse had decided on a different approach.
She has an awareness—keener than most—of her assets. She is articulate and personable; reasonably extroverted; emotionally intelligent. She might not have quite a Greta Thunberg-caliber intellect, but she’s smart enough and she works hard, and she has a certain charisma. In fact, she is self-aware enough to call it what it is: not just personal magnetism, but privilege. Whiteness. She is a pretty, green-eyed blonde with straight teeth and a cute little figure, from an upper-middle-class family. Not the sort of girl anyone is going to suspect of criminality. And not the sort of girl anyone wants to see die. This is a substantial well of resources from which to draw.
But her most valuable asset is no asset at all: Saoirse Malloy has nothing to lose.
Still several months from legal adulthood, Saoirse has already given up on the idea of a future. Summer nights with her family, sometimes she’d sit on the back porch while her siblings toasted marshmallows over the charcoal grill and wonder how many more nights like this there’d be: fed and comfortable, in a peaceful city, with AC, a nominally-functioning government, and a refrigerator full of food. To be able to sit in front of a television at the end of the day, with no more pressing worry than tomorrow’s test or the number of likes on her latest post, and then sleep in a bed secure in the knowledge that everyone in her family would survive the night: this was a life of luxury billions of people around the world would never know. She couldn’t explain how she had won the lottery of existence by being born into these riches, but she knew it couldn’t last. Too many systems were collapsing simultaneously. By the time she was her parents’ age, this world would be gone. People like her mom and dad would see it end. People like her and her brother and sister would pioneer the new one, remembering all that was lost.
She’d started small, compiling a list of the worst lawmakers in her city and state—people who’d voted to loosen gun laws, repeal regulations, block access to abortion or voting or healthcare. She began with subtle acts of sabotage: simple hacks to crash their websites, embarrassing deepfakes she made with Sora. The acts themselves weren’t the point; she made TikToks documenting her mischief, and posted them from a VPN with AI-voiced commentary describing what she was doing, and why, encouraging them to follow suit. She tagged influencers across the social media spectrum and got them to promote her videos, and before she knew it, she had a following of her own: hundreds, and then thousands, in countries all over the globe, and a few of them were doing what she asked. Some had begun posting their own videos in reply, documenting their own acts of resistance against the rich and powerful in their own communities who were working to keep the world on its current course. She had created a network—decentralized, nebulous, largely anonymous, and growing—united around her message that the adults of the world had thrown up their hands, and the only hope now lay with the youth. No one is coming to save us was the tagline she used to end every video, and it had become the rallying cry of her little movement. The next step in her plan was to escalate the attacks: destabilizing acts of destruction and violence in unexpected places that would not only reach a wider audience, but would further unify her supporters. Once they reach a critical mass, she will reveal herself and initiate Phase Three, a whole new kind of collective action; guerrilla resistance, taken to its furthest extreme. She will lead her followers in the delivery of an ultimatum to the world’s adults: a global hunger strike that won’t end until either the planet is saved, or the future is lost—which is the inevitable outcome of the course they’re on, anyway. It will be a battle of the suicide pacts: one faction leading the whole world to doom via willful disregard of multiple escalating catastrophes, the other ending it all preemptively, by sacrificing themselves.
Within the four walls of her childhood bedroom in a comfortable neighborhood on the West Side of Cleveland, Saoirse has everything she needs to change the world: her phone, a little gas money, and her imagination. The powers that be could finally pull their heads out of their asses (or their piles of money) and do something to fix the mess they were in, or they could face consequences they had failed to foresee. To Saoirse Malloy, it is a perfect plan that cannot possibly fail. Maybe they’ll all die in the apocalypse, as expected. Maybe they’ll die by their own hands, and be spared the agony of having to see it all through to the end. Or maybe, by some miraculous alchemy of fatalism and teenage bravado and irrational American optimism…maybe they will actually save the world.
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Name It Love
All week, I have struggled to formulate a post. I’ve covered a lot of topics, and written a lot of words, but nothing came together in a way that felt shareable. I wrote a little about protests, and a little more about Catholicism, and I put together 1200 words on the subject of how deeply angry I am at the loved ones in my life who voted for this nightmare we’re living in (or refused to vote against it), only to realize that a) that’s what everyone else I know is already writing about and b) I was barely scratching the surface and would likely need several thousand more words to get anywhere near the heart of it. Also, those of you who know me have heard it all before. Not to say that it wasn’t worth the effort; in the course of the writing I happened upon a beautiful scene from the life of spoken-word poet Andrea Gibson, whose work I (like a lot of people) discovered last summer, after their untimely death from cancer. In the documentary about Gibson, an ex-girlfriend of theirs recalls sharing all the complicated, painful emotions that were coming up for her around her father’s imminent death, and how they made it difficult for her to be with him. Everything that you’re feeling right now, Andrea told her, name it love.
I’ve thought a lot about those words over the last few days: that’s what all of it is, after all. My anger at my family members is love—for this country, as it’s being destroyed; for the parents who are being snatched away from their children; for the children being sent to prison camps; for the people who want to be left to make decisions about their own bodies and futures in peace; for the sick and the suffering who could be helped by science and medicine that won’t be funded now. And it’s the failure of love, too: the abiding sadness that is the natural result of seeing people you love choose a two-thousand-year-old book of mythology over the flesh-and-blood human beings in front of them for as long as you can remember. That any of them could actually say to me—have said—that they don’t understand letting politics come between people who love each other, when they have themselves been putting religion between us since I was a seven-year-old child; have put religion between themselves and their own children…that is the sadness, and the outrage, of love denied. All over the country, what manifests as anger and alienation is, at its essence, love that has been thwarted, or disappointed, or stirred to outrage. It’s helpful, I suppose, to remember that. I believe in periodic reminders of what unites us—even those of us who seem most distantly polarized, to use the favored buzzword of our time—and I’m reassured to think that, somewhere deep inside, even the people who would happily see me slumped over my steering wheel for being snarky to a cosplay cop are motivated by their own kind of love. It’s a twisted, miseducated version of love, but it’s born of the longings we all share. We all want to be safe. We want our children to have a chance at their dreams. We want to be free to make the choices we believe will bring us happiness.
We also want other people to stop telling us what the fuck we ought to want and that we’re going to hell if we don’t do what they say.
And maybe we want those people to try taking their own advice and start listening to their own holy man, who, in fairness, actually had a lot of good ideas.
Anyway, in the end I decided I was overthinking things, as is my wont, and ought to just break the logjam of frustration by posting something even if it didn’t feel particularly revelatory. I’ve worked on other things as well this week: revisions of the poem I shared recently—I may show them to you, I can’t decide whether I’ve improved it or made it worse—as well as the novel I periodically remember I’m supposed to be writing. And I’ve been reading; one month into 2026 I’ve got three books under my belt and a fourth nearly finished; the weather has helped me in that regard. One of the books I just finished is called The Light Eaters, and it’s about the question of plant intelligence. I’ll admit it has not exactly gripped me, but I’ve learned a few things, and in the final chapter, the author caught my attention by questioning the idea of “invasive species.” Many of you who know me know my hatred of these varieties, which, if you are even a little bit literate in the world of botany, you quickly realize are absolutely everywhere. But this author notes that any plant, no matter its species, is simply doing what all living things do—trying to survive, trying to make a better future for its offspring, and trying to adjust to whatever difficult circumstances (such as being transplanted against its will far from the home that produced it) are thrust upon it. Given the choice, plants, like people, would probably prefer not to be forced into unfamiliar environments not suited to their needs. The only reason we have invasive species at all is…us. It’s people who move them from one continent to another, plant them in their yards because they’re pretty or bear them unwittingly on the soles of their shoes, and then wage war on them for growing where they don’t belong. But like us, they do their best to figure out what the new situation requires, and adapt to it. Life, I thought as I listened to this book, is hard for everyone. Maybe we all just try to help one another do the best they can, wherever they are.